When I first met a lesbian couple, I was horrified.
I was an old-fashioned conservative, and even though I loved them, I knew their lives were doomed.
I couldn’t fathom their suffering.
Then I realized they weren’t alone.
And they were.
They weren’t going anywhere.
For the first time in my life, I could be happy and proud of who I am.
In that moment, I realized I had a chance to change my life for the better.
I decided to tell the truth.
And it was not easy.
I had to fight to be heard.
After a few years of living a lie, I became the leader of a lesbian wedding photography studio in New York City.
Now, I am in the process of raising my daughter and opening my first wedding gallery in Atlanta.
As a result of this courageous move, I have learned a lot about love and how to love the one you love.
I also know that I am not alone in my journey to love and be loved.
For those who aren’t ready to go to church, a couple of days before my wedding, I read a passage in the Bible.
In it, the apostle Paul warns against the practice of taking a person to church to “be saved.”
Instead, he writes, the person should “come to the church, not to be saved, but to be converted.”
Paul’s message resonated with me.
As I walked into the cathedral, I saw hundreds of people lining up for the first communion in a church I had never attended.
They looked tired, but they were all coming to get married.
I felt blessed.
I didn’t need to get baptized, I just needed to walk into a church.
I went to the door and was greeted by people of all races, creeds and sexual orientations.
I saw a couple standing at the crossroads of the church.
They had come to get marriage licenses and had no idea they were going to marry someone of the same sex.
They walked away from me with a smile on their face and a feeling of acceptance.
They were no different than me.
The truth is that marriage isn’t about who you love or who you think you love, it’s about who God loves you and what God wants for you.
Marriage is not a union of one man and one woman.
In fact, marriage is an intimate relationship between a man and a woman who are meant to be together forever.
That is a true marriage.
But the reality is that we don’t have that.
We do not have the same God, or the same laws, or even the same principles.
We don’t even have the rights and privileges we do today.
Marriage has never been about who I love, or who I believe in, or what I believe is right for me.
It has always been about the love God has for me and my husband.
We live in a culture that has a great deal of love for those who are different from us.
That love is what makes us who we are.
That’s what makes marriage a relationship between two people who love each other.
As we stand in the middle of the gospel, we can find a deeper truth about who we truly are.
I believe that the truth is this: We all love and value ourselves.
The key to living a happy and fulfilled life is to love ourselves.
That doesn’t mean we can never have an argument.
It means we can learn to work through our differences with the grace of God and be happy in the midst of the conflict.
But when we love ourselves and we value ourselves, we have the opportunity to love our neighbor as ourselves.